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at 43

Posted by thebuenviajelife on November 6, 2020 at 9:45 AM Comments comments (0)

At 43 I reconnect this time to my youth…………..It's been ages since I last wrote something. There are a few excuses that I can think of to justify not writing but instead I decided to go by the truth and say I got lazy. I was swept away by new media (video), I discovered that standing in front of my camera and say what I want the world to hear coming straight to my mouth. Was better, was more me and it was, and it still is, But here I am on a Friday night Infront of my laptop and looking at my old site who I haven’t visit for a very long minute. I guess it’s best to first do a quick what’s up? and what’s happening? before I go forward to what this is and what its going to be.

I turned 43 after a year of being 42, my wife still wears the pants but I’m still the man of the house, when she is out. �� Kidding aside, I have made huge changes in my life. First planned to change my work, new work unfamiliar territory. Started reconnecting to my roots (friends, classmates, people etc.), Taal volcano exploded, shocking by the way. But the biggest one Covid-19 came, still here and I wish it would just go away.

There you go all caught up. Moving on. I was reading some of my old work, some are cringe, some I wanted to look for the delete button, some I ask myself what got into me? But for the most part I realize, that was my thoughts, my ideas, my feelings transformed into words. I read some more, and I realize that when I made these blogs, I was not writing for the world, or anybody, I was writing for me. Though the articles were silly the time I was writing them, they were the ones that matter to me. The words maybe grammatically hideous and foolish, but they were my voice, my youth.

At 43 I reconnect this time to my youth, to my writing. I’m not saying I’m back, but I can say I want to start writing again and maybe a little bit better than how I use to, Better word choices, way better content. If there’s something that will stay is that I will still be writing what matter to me, it will still be my voice.


We commit to it

Posted by thebuenviajelife on April 9, 2013 at 5:35 PM Comments comments (0)

I have been working for a long time and in that time I have encountered diffent types of people, there are people who do it and there are people who commit to it. This little sharing I have for you today is about the first type of people who I will shift thier lives from people who do to people who commit to it. Let's start!

I'm bored!, I think this is not for me!, I want something! I'm tired of this! This is not what I thought it was! Is this what I want! These are just some expression we hear from people. The funny thing is they already know that it's not for them but they continue to do the same thing over and over again and the worst thing is they rant and rant and rant but they dont do anything about it. But what can we do about it? How do we break free from this situation?

I was told once that If you want change you have to break away from you comfort zone and go for whatever you want. It is never easy to break away from what you have gotten used to but if your not happy anymore, if you have forgotten the meaning on why you are doing it then I guess it's time for you to stop and re-discover why you are doing it.

I remember a story about a brother who was serving in Gawad Kalinga, I remember his story, he was a mission worker when we met, he shared to me that before doing GK he was an executive of a bank. He lived in a class A village in Manila, he eats in expensive resturants and attends glamurous parties,and when he was sharing that to me it felt like he was living "the life.But with that"same success it got him hooked with drugs, he also is a constant guest in casino's and looses a lots of money. There was a point in his life that he lost everything from his career to his family. I guess at his lowest point God picked him up and made him realize that he has to change his life and he found a new fulfilment in serving others through Christ. But he said it was not easy, it's a process that needed commitment and a lot of prayer. 

What I'm trying to share is this for commitment to work, you need to have a reason for doing it. There should be a clear picture why you are commited to doing the work that you do,otherwise why do it?

My challedge for you is this, if there was one thing that you can do today, what would it be? if you know the answer then go do it.!!!

by JOM

started Jan 22, 2010 finished aprl 4, 2013


Pencil...not the writing kind

Posted by thebuenviajelife on November 19, 2012 at 3:00 AM Comments comments (0)

Well it’s just sad to leave when it's your last day of your big vacation. It is true that wherever you are and what place, the only thing you run out is time. Time is what I have run out of right now. South Korea is not new to me, this is not my first time here but it seems that every trip I make is a first time. New discoveries and new people to me meet. In tjhis trp I meet the people in my little homey hostel named "Pencil" DJ who is the owner of the place is very nice. Though I only meet him twice fist is when we checked and the other is when we checked out and that’s it. Most of the time person I was able to fork a conversation about is Pei pei who basically is the staff on the accomodation, nice girl from Malaysia who looks like she is in highschool but i was schock to know that she already got her degree in Malysia and is here is Korea for something about the language, that part I did not get much coz I have to go and she is clock in. Next would be Diego Now interstingly I only meet the guy for about 10 mins that includes the introductions, greetings, from where and the what are you doing here and the goodnight ending "cool I'll see you later".


For the place I'll give an A+ for the service, they serve coffee and jam sandwich all day and that’s for free, but wait there is more!!! The place is not the best I have stayed but defintely it is the homiest. The set up was homey, the food well I think it’s 10 times more than what I have in my fridge. They have useful information for tourist, they have round the clock internet and it runs in a wopping 994Mbps now believe me I'm in the internet business and this speed is crazy fast. Now on the last day they offer luch togetther with the other rentee's which basically creates an atmosphere of friendship and familly, now where would you find that kind of place anywhere in Korea. Pencil is defintely the place to stay for strangers travelling Korea. Salute to DJ, Pei pei and speedy Gonzales Deigo.

South Korea in my view

Posted by thebuenviajelife on November 17, 2012 at 6:20 PM Comments comments (0)

This would juts be quick and easy


Soondubu Jiggae – Soft Tofu Stew

Ddukbokkie – Rice Cake Street Food

Yangnyeom Tongdak – Seasoned Fried Chicken

Japchae -Stir Fried Noodles

Bibimbap – Mixed Rice

Kimchi – Fermented Cabbage

Ramen Noodle Stir Fry


Kimbop and ginseng drinks

that’s it for food. YUM burp!


Nami or naminara island


Royal Palaces



Namsan Park and N Seoul Tower


that's 4 days of tour adn what have you!

The past year 2010

Posted by thebuenviajelife on February 15, 2011 at 11:29 AM Comments comments (0)

The year 2010 is coming to an end adn a lot of things has happened, I look back on the memories that came to pass on this wonderfull year. I remember taking notes on the changes that I want to accomplish for the year.

First one being a change of financial status, two days back I was talking to my wife about our finances and the great part is we have some few loans that it almost paid a few more months and we are done, one of the credit cards that we have has been paid of completely and has cut the card in half so as to never use it ever again FYI we only have 2 cards, we need the other one for emergency so I will be keeping the other one.

Second was to get my wife a visa....well wehave tried to get the visa for her. We spent quite a time preparing the papers and getting the necessary documents that was needed, arm with the money in the bank and the papers, plus the hope of getting that visa, sadly it did not push through she was denied because the consul was not in the mood of granting one. Annoyed, feeling low my brother was there to comfort my wife and me about that misfortune. So get ready 2011 we are going to try again but this time arm with a lot of prayers...

The third and forth plan was open a savings account with money in it, get a marriage seminar - I think we have exceeded to that plan and got more than what we have plan for, we did open a savings account, we did get the money in bank for a certain time it was there, then we got our church wedding and it was just amazing from start to finish, from the church to the venue everything took its place pefectly. We recieve great comments about the wedding, from the church, the fountain, the ceremony, the priest, the food, the venue, the photo and video everything was just great. Best thing of I got to say I do to my wife the secoind time around and man it was great!

But there are other wonderful things that has happened for this year that I'm thankful about, like the travels that we did this year Boracay, Bangkok and Singapore. We have also move in to a better apartment. I got a new job with a dayshift schedule, my wife got promoted to her job. We have enjoyed the company of good friends and made new ones too. We have also made extra efforts to be with our families and bonded with them through occassions. But the best part of it all we felt that God is looking over us and making sure that we are on the right track.

So sum up this year I think we did good ... really good!

2010 Election

Posted by thebuenviajelife on December 14, 2010 at 12:17 PM Comments comments (0)

I have been monitoring the events for this 2010 election, starting from the candidates to the new automated machines called the PCOS(Precinct Count Optical Scanner) machines which will be used in the election. I have watch every debate from presidents to vice presidents, to guesting on TV of the senatorial candidate. Every news update on TV and on the internet, I have seen the commercials on TV explaining their plan for a better Philippines, that they are the right one to take over the Malacañang to renew better and uncorrupt governance on our country, oh yeah how can I miss all their promises about eliminating poverty. I have even made my personal survey by asking ordinary people from taxi drivers, to my co-workers and even my family on who is their candidate and why they are routing for that person? Some gave me a very funny reaction, some gave me their belief and some well they just don't know I guess it was the lack of choice.





Today is May 10,2010 the election day, for a guy who has been on top of every news there is, I'm not in line on a precinct waiting for a number on a very hot day to vote instead, I'm here in the office writing this article and also working, yes ironic, I know! But I have no choice I wish I was there voting shading the name of the person I think will best run the country, but no! instead I'm in the office working because I have too, because I need too, because my work does not recognize holidays. So since i can't vote what am I doing to help in the election. I'm online on facebook, on all my online messengers. Asking all my friends and connections not to be lazy and vote. It's all that I can do for now.Oh yeah! I'm also monitoring the election via net, pretty cool huh!



The last part for my contribution to my hope of a better country is this, tonight before this day ends, me and my wife will pray, we will pray that God takes over this election. We will pray that who ever wins in this election be the person that will lead the country to a better Philippines, we will pray that he will love this country more than himself, may he be the person to bringing back the once called pearl of the orient, Philippines.....


At the top

Posted by thebuenviajelife on December 14, 2010 at 12:11 PM Comments comments (0)

I have been meaning to write something on paper but I just could not find anything to write about this past few weeks. I have been trying to fiind one but I just couldn't. so here I' am one in the morning trying to find something to say that will make sense for this piece.A lot of things happened this past three weeks and I cant seem to write about it, so I decided to enumerate situations that I had gone thru:




I was loosing weight recently, not that I'm complaining but it has been alarming since I'm loosing the weight faster than usual. So I decided to go to the doctor to know the reason for my weight lost. The result I was diagnose with diabetes type 2, I was stunned and could not opt a word to say, blank!, confused!, I did not know what to do or say but I was a ble to muster a smile finished what the doctor had to say. I was walking with no where to go, I was able to get back to my proper senses, called the wife and told her what had happened. Ego damaged, steam down and not on my best form.




Sheila and I have decided that we will try to apply to get an american visa, saved up money to pay for the scheule, put everything together the papers that was needed, we made some research just to have an advantage on the interview, we were prepared on anything that the consul will ask, all the documents we even review everyting for a second run just to make sure everything is in place. The big day came we met in starbucks in front of the embassy. Sent her off and waited for her my brother even joined me on the waiting, after 2 hours Sheila was walking back to the coffee shop and the big news "denied"



I was working for one of the most prestigeous name in the technology industry IBM, no issue with co-workers, good communication with managers, liked the accout that I was handling. I was relax and had no issue at work except the location. I thought I can get through the travel from house to work, I though I will get used to it so I gave myself time but it just would not do. So after 9 months of struggle I decided to give my resignation to my manager and explained my situation and since there is no bond on my contract with them, I served my 30 days notice, had my clearance and I was done IBM let me go.





I decided to walk to church in Don Bosco to run and tell my God that I need help. Got there meet my wife and we prayed to our savior.


I have been asking people about thier first impressions about me and they happen to have same answwer that I was a snob. They say that I'm very direct to the point with what I have to say. But after a while of getting to know me they ease up and find themselve's saying that they were wring about me. I guess first impressions doesm't really work on my end, because assumption is misleading most of the time.

An email for keeps

Posted by thebuenviajelife on May 9, 2010 at 11:58 PM Comments comments (0)

I wanted to share this email I got a couple of years ago from a friend of mine. This really made a lot sense to me and I wanted to share this to everyone who visits my site. I truely feel that this email was not intended just for me but for everybody who He loves so much.





Reference: LIFE

I am God. Today I will be handling all of your problems. Please remember that I

do not need your help.

If life happens to deliver a situation to you that you cannot handle, do not

attempt to resolve it. Kindly put it in the SFGTD (something for God to do) box.

All situations will be resolved, but in My time, not yours.

Once the matter is placed into the box, do not hold onto it by worrying about

it. Instead, focus on all the wonderful things that are present in your life


If you find yourself stuck in traffic; Don't despair. There are people in this

world for whom driving is an unheard of privilege.

Should you have a bad day at work; Think of the man who has been out of work for


Should you despair over a relationship gone bad; Think of the person who has

never known what it's like to love and be loved in return.

Should you grieve the passing of another weekend; Think of the woman in dire

straits, working twelve hours a day, seven days a week to feed her children.

Should your car break down, leaving you miles away from assistance; Think of the

paraplegic who would love the opportunity to take that walk.

Should you notice a new gray hair in the mirror; Think of the cancer patient in

chemo who wishes she had hair to examine.

Should you find yourself at a loss and pondering what is life all about, asking

what is my purpose? Be thankful. There are those who didn't live long enough to

get the opportunity.

Should you find yourself the victim of other people's bitterness, ignorance,

smallness or insecurities; Remember, things could be worse. You could be one of


Should you decide to send this to friends; Thank you, you may have touched their

lives in ways you will never know!

Please say the following small prayer for the person who sent you this:

Father, God bless _______ in whatever it is that You know

he/she may be needing this day! And may ____________'s

life be full of your peace, prosperity and power as he/she

seeks to have a closer relationship with YOU. Amen.

Then send this on to five other people, including the one who

sent it to you.Within hours, five people have prayed for you,

and you caused a multitude of people to pray for other

people.Then sit back and watch the power of God work in your


P. S. Five is good, but more is better.


Is this your story?

Posted by thebuenviajelife on March 27, 2010 at 1:31 AM Comments comments (0)

I remember a point in my life when I envisioned my life going where everybody is going, I did not have a single imaginary thing for myself except for one, I always saw myself being rich. Other than that, I do not have my own road to travel. I could say that wherever the wind takes me, that's where I go. I tried to imitate the people around me. I have no personality, no identity. Until one day everything came crashing down, everything in my life was a mess. I thought that was the end for me, but God had other plans. He took me out of my comfort zone, broken me into pieces, so that I will see Him and His unfailing love. The first thing that He did was to take away everything that I had, every little thing I was broken into pieces. He then picked me up piece by piece, reshaped and fashioned me to His likeness. He filled me up with His unselfish love. Then He said “I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and never to harm you, plans to give you a future full of Hope. Then, He set me to the world with one mission, two rules and a reminder “Tell the world of His Love”, Love GOD and Love your neighbor, “whatever you did to the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me”. JOM

He loves you........for the rest of your life.

Posted by thebuenviajelife on March 27, 2010 at 1:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I have come to believe that each and everyone of us is unique in one way or the other and that is not just in the physical aspect. We are, in each of our own way, capable of doing exceptional things in this world. We can be whatever we want to be, as long as we work on it. But even though it is in this truth, there is an equal amount of things that you have to go through, to be able to achieve whatever you want in this lifetime that God has given you. Different trials that defines your moment of truth, encounter different people that will challenge your dreams and aspirations in life. Some will break your heart and some will wash away the fire that is raging inside of you. You will be broken into pieces and will need to rebuild yourself piece by piece. But do not be afraid, do not be discourage because in all of these you will not be alone even if you feel that you are alone because God will be with you and He will never leave you nor forsake you simply because He loves you.



I remember a saying that goes “life is what you make it” in one sense this is true because you have to work on life, starts from being a kid where you slowly learn life in the world, to an adult that deals with life's up's and down's. As you grow and experience life you try to achieve good things for YOU, it could be anything from a simple gadget on TV, to a mansion in Beverly Hills and you work, and work ,and work for it, until one morning you wake to find out that life is not the one for sale on TV or the slick sports car that you drive not even the numbers you see on your savings account. You discovered that life is about the one person that you want to wake up with for the rest of your life.



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